Welcome to the official site of Chris Tomkin, author of the popular book ‘Anger Management: Stopping the Addiction to Anger’.
This site, kickAnger.com, came about following numerous requests from his readership base requesting an online presence dedicated to the topic of anger management. In addition, Chris made the altruistic decision to withdraw his book from publication in 2015 and make the material available to everyone via this site.
What is Anger? …only one letter from Danger
KickAnger.com reaches out to anyone experiencing anger issues and is as useful to both the anger-prone individual as it is to anyone who is affected by another person’s anger problems. It covers anger issues associated with toddlers, young children, teenagers and adults and is written in order to provide practical advice and tips on how to tackle and control this problem effectively, rather than being an in-depth, heavy and theoretical exploration of the subject matter.
The cycle of anger from child → adult → child runs as a theme throughout the site. The corrosive nature of being addicted to anger is explored in depth, and through being aware of the processes involved and the methods to deal with them, the reader will gain the mindset required to break this destructive cycle and be liberated from the shackles of anger once and for all.
Although the site is divided into 3 main sections covering child, teenager and adult anger, they should be viewed in terms of forming part of an overall picture. Angry adults do not usually spontaneously become angry people; they often have issues traceable to their formative years as a child or teenager. In addition, angry adults, who aside from blighting their own life and the lives of those around them, risk loss on many levels as well as a higher incidence of health-related problems. Unfortunately, angry adults tend to produce angry or damaged children and so the cycle continues from one generation to the next.
Uncontrolled anger is an issue which affects all ages, races and communities. In fact, anger has the potential to touch anybody without prejudice. Not only does anger destroy the individual but it also impacts everyone and everything around them and is frightening for those who have to live with it every day. An angry family member will eventually affect all other members of that family. Each member may react in a different way such as living in fear, being in a state of denial and repression or exhibiting anger and antisocial problems themselves. Also, there is clear evidence to show a link between anger and anti-social and violent behavior, emotional and physical abuse and crime.
Fortunately, there does exist a window of opportunity to break established patterns of anger-related behavior to the benefit of all, and this comes through understanding and implementing anger management techniques. KickAnger.com aims to empower and equip the reader with the tools and knowledge to help overcome and stop the addiction to anger.